Your son is incapable of learning

“Your son is incapable of learning.”
I sat for a minute, looking at the counselor who had requested the meeting, trying to decide if I had heard her correctly.  I felt my left hand press against my pounding heart.
“Did you say, ‘incapable of learning?’”  I queried.  “Yes,” she responded, and proceeded to mouth paragraphs of jargon, [...]

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Is Adoption for Everyone?

If you want to be a parent, you are a candidate for adoption.
It is a natural desire to wish to pro-create. Every living thing on earth replicates and creates young, whether it is a bird or a blade of grass. It is also natural to want to protect those who are [...]

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Should I Tell My Child That He’s Adopted?

My son came home at seven-days-of age.  Fifteen years later, I am still in Nursery Nirvana.  From the moment I first held him in my arms, I have felt a deep pride in him and how he came to be my son - and he knows it.

We have always discussed adoption naturally and openly, and [...]

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Right Now I Want to Write About the Courage of a Young Man

Right now I want to write about the courage of the human spirit. In particular, the spirit locked within the adolescent breast of my thirteen-year-old son.

Right now I want to write about his witness, about his goodness, about his compassion.

Last night my son stepped into the icy waters of an ice-rimed [...]

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Will An Adoptive Child Ever Feel Like My Own?

I was taking it easy this morning and indulging myself in some adoption-related blogs, when I came across a beautifully written entry by a single mother whose little girl was adopted from Guatemala http://wilmarket.wordpress.com/category/adoption/ . Her deep love for her child shone through every word, every phrase, and reminded me of the joy [...]

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